STARTING NOW

Starting the healing process means coming to terms with everything we've experienced historically. Which is why so many of us put healing the trauma aside or postpone what needs to be done, in hopes that we'll never feel any of the pain involved.

Many of us are relying on band-aid methods and expecting them to work long term.

Trauma can't be postponed.

Emotions need to be felt.

It's apparent in our current society we have rewarded those who resist or restrain vital human emotions. Leading to antisocial, psychopathic or sociopathic behaviours, which in turn causes trauma to others.

Society will catch up with emotional intelligence in due course. It's important not to spend all your time and energy trying to make others feel when they don't want to or are not prepared to feel.

You are here to set an example and work on healing yourself, in the process, you will help others.

During my personal journey, I know that refusing to step back and acknowledge what has happened in my life. Only delayed my happiness and potential to help others. It delayed my authenticity, leaving me insecure, strung out and reactionary.

I started to ask myself some important and simple questions. Preparing myself for whatever answers I might face.

It's important to take the time or move around your schedule to work on something if it comes up.

Everyone has varied forms of trauma and some we may not be aware of. Everything we experience as humans can come with a form of trauma. From giving birth, scorned words from a relative, witnessing an animal die, to being born ourselves. You'll be taking this journey baring in mind you may have to face every experience needed.

Right now might not be the time or place for you to trace, come back to this when you're ready. For now, focus on being present and connecting with yourself. When you feel it is time, then begin trauma tracing.

When you go through trauma tracing, comfort and reassure yourself. You are not alone, you have your greatest ally who witnessed and felt it all first hand. That person knows you better than anyone else, some call it 'higher self' or 'true self'.

It's important to tap into this person before you take on whatever emotion, truth or pain may be waiting on the other side. You need to be able to connect and be present with who you are currently to go through this process.

Before I go through trauma tracing I start with self-talk, preparing my environment and using grounding techniques.

Emotional flashbacks happen and you need to be prepared. Again, you know who you are and if you listen to yourself. Trust that you will remember and can feel what will work best for you.

Trust that you can let the emotion come, let it be felt in full and then farewell it.

This is a private and almost sacred experience you're about to embark on. Historically humanity nurtured trauma healing and would use ritualistic, tribal or cultural methods. Some use religious observance to heal, much like tracing emotions the act was adapted from cultural observance and emotional healing.

In traditional Australia, native Australians go on walkabout (temporary mobility), men's and woman's business. Much like bar/ bat mitzvah a coming of rights and the taking spiritual time. We must accept our parent's actions, society's actions and the effect they have had on us. Learning why we behave and act the way we do and how we now choose to behave having become aware.


This sacred time is private and needs to be respected. Becoming present in your cycle of trauma and learning to grow and move past what has happened is important. You need to be free from distractions like television, alcohol, anything that may upset your stomach during (meat, dairy and junk food) and demanding people.

Historically we understood trauma and that all of us have experienced one form or another. Those who begin the healing and complete the process call it many things transmutation, healing or wisdom. Taking your experiences and transforming them into something better.

The term overstanding is often used when learning to view trauma during healing. You no longer understand the trauma alone, you have the strength and ability to overstand your pain and trauma.

Don't be afraid to adapt historical methods that resonate with you, providing it does not hinder others. Many tribes utilised the use of native plants, chanting, meditation and body movements like dancing.

This time is not to be shared or experienced with children or other people present. You need to feel one hundred present secure and prepared while you're trauma tracing is occurring.

Concerning any house guests, traumatising children or distressing the household could set you all back.

Being paranoid about your surroundings or restraining the emotions from being felt in full can also delay you. Find a quiet, safe and secure place like your bedroom

Practice self-soothing, remind yourself you are just witnessing the event in the present time. Talk to the person experiencing them. Sometimes you can find yourself back to early childhood, don't be afraid to visualise yourself there telling that person they are going to get through it. Remember you are proof that this person can and has survived.

Once the emotion and memories have played out or it has been expressed. I then go outside and practice grounding techniques to heal, tie off the ends of what I experienced and create closure.

This final process is vital and without it, you're essentially triggering yourself, then failing to finish tracing the emotion and properly healing.

When you are ready, then begin.

∆  stay tuned for a detailed process of Trauma tracing shortly  ∆